Three Ways To Beat Insecurity
No one is perfect. Nor should one strive to be. Our imperfections are what make us unique. We also have made mistakes. And that’s ok. Failure often bears the most fruitful lessons. However, often we struggle to account for these insights. We fall prey to our insecurity, resulting in us feeling a lack of confidence. That in itself leads to numerous other consequences: anger, getting defensive, anxiety, etc.
The hole that our insecurity digs can be deep, but there is a way to defeat/minimize it. While learning the methods, they may sound generic. That still does not negate their impact. Speaking from experience, it can stomp out insecurities if utilized with genuine intent.
Don’t Be An Asshole
Pretty self-explanatory. Do not be the person who brings negative energy or tries to find a flaw in everyone/everything. Who likes to be around that type of person? And in all honesty, who enjoys being that person? To even generate this type of negativity, it starts by building that dark cloud in your mind. Telling people they are not good enough or treating them as inferior may make you feel better, but that is not genuine happiness. That is your ego feeling good and creating artificial happiness. It does not last and eventually will collapse. When it does, you will feel horrible. You will realize that this whole time your ego generated negative energy as an attempt to avoid facing your insecurities. You made fun of friends, thought rude things, and for what? All this just to create a false sense of happiness? Avoid this predicament entirely by practicing positivity. Be the person who brings light and is encouraging, honest, and kind. By doing so, you will learn to be honest and kind to yourself. By pushing others to be great, you will push yourself to be great. Life is reciprocatory. It will treat you how you treat it.
Gratitude
Life is very short. It is fragile. Yes, we all have problems and difficulties that we have to face daily. Nevertheless, always remind yourself about what you have. Be grateful for that because it all can be taken away in a moment’s notice. The universe does not care about your feelings. No matter what happens to you, the sun will continue to rise and set. Therefore, always appreciate what you have. Be grateful for your parent(s), friend(s), home, running water, food, clothing, transportation, etc. This sense of gratitude keeps us at bay. Our insecurities are rooted from us not feeling like we are not enough. By being grateful, you can appreciate all you have and stress less about what you do not.
Self-Awareness
This may be the most important one. Understanding who you are, what you have been through, and your values is essential. It is what keeps you grounded in reality and fact. Sometimes, we tend to overthink and place ourselves in unimaginable scenarios. We go so out-of-the-realm of reality and start judging ourselves by those manufactured situations. Do not do it. It is pointless and is an inaccurate representation of yourself. Focus on the real. Know who you are, what you want, and go for it.
Another underspoken aspect of self-awareness is realizing that you are not the only person in the world. You are not the only one who has issues, goals, concerns, etc. Everyone is going through the journey of life as well. The world does not revolve around any single person. So do not try to make everything about you because it truly is not. Understand that and respect everyone accordingly.
These are only three of many ways of how you can battle insecurity. Regardless of how you do it, remember the endgame: live your life on your terms because it is your life. No one else can dictate it unless you let them. Don’t. They are not allowed to live your life. Only you are. Enjoy it and be grateful for it. Treat others with this same mindset and live happily ever after.
